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Publications: Japji Sahib: The Song of the Soul by Guru Nanak translated by Ek Ong Kaar Kaur Khalsa. Anand Sahib: The Song of Bliss by Guru Amar Das translated by Ek Ong Kaar Kaur Khalsa. Available through www.sikhdharma.org.

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

What Does It Take To Heal?

A dear friend of mine and I were talking recently about the tragedies that people go through in life, and how often we can get stuck. The pain involved in loss and trauma can become so overwhelming that we stay frozen in time, reliving the past. Each moment we loose ourselves in old feelings and memories is a moment that we cannot embrace the here and now. Trauma, loss, pain and suffering can drain the life out of us like a psychic vampire.

There are a lot of tools out there to help people express their past traumas and anguish: 12-step programs and group support systems; counselors and therapists. There are even drugs that selectively repress the body chemistry responsible for emotional pain.

It is my belief that many people seek out yoga and meditation as a way to heal the pain from their past. Through yoga and meditation, we open the chakras, raise the Kundalini, and directly experience the Divine energy of the ethers. All of this can have a tremendously soothing effect on an internal nervous system that never stopped reacting to a mental, emotional or physical violation held in a person's memory.

Often, the healing process can become an inner loop where we feel the pain from the past, find a way to express it, and gain a temporary sense of relief. Yet, the deepest healing happens in the moment where the memory gets transformed somehow so that it no longer hurts when we remember the event. Getting to that moment of transformation is a very deep process. The practice of Kundalini Yoga can create a path within the nervous and glandular systems so we can experience that moment of transformation.

One of the main discoveries I have made in my own healing/spiritual journey over the last 25 years is this. Inner healing starts with building a new room. When we are traumatized on any level, that trauma, and our reaction to it becomes part of our self-definition. It is "who we are" on some level. The more the trauma defines us, the more trapped we are in the remembered pain of it.

But who we are is actually an Infinite Ray of Divine Light, who came to earth in human form for a specific reason. We are not the pain and the trauma. We are creatures of an Infinite and Loving Consciousness. And there is a Divine purpose to our lives.

Some level of healing and relief happens when we face those moments in our past and cry over them, fight about them, argue with them, or wish they had never happened. But the most tranformational healing happens when we begin to build a sense of our identity unrelated to the trauma, originating from the Divine Self within. When the room of this new self-identity is built to a certain degree, when the "I" caught in the pain actually has somewhere new to move to, then we can look that trauma square in the eye and allow it to transform into something that will always be part of us, but will never define or rule us.

How does one build such a room? It is takes time, and requires different skills and a different understanding of the self. One place to start is with simple breathing meditations. Any meditation that works with the breath can take you to the quiet place within, where the source of your true Self and true healing lives.

Another simple tool is this: if today you are dealing with the pain of a past traumatic event, ask yourself: what do you love about yourself and your life that has never had anything to do with the trauma? Meditate on it. Write a list. You could find yourself opening the door to new vision for how to see yourself and understand your world.

With Divine Light,

Ek Ong Kaar Kaur

Ek Ong Kaar Kaur Khalsa will teach a multi-class webinar through Soul Answer University titled Activate Your Inner Healing Mandala. Part 1 will take place on Monday evening, July 9, 16, 23 and 30th. Part 2 will take place on Monday evenings, September 10, 17, 24 and October 1. Visit www.soulanswer.com for more information and to register.